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Not Just Hair – Surprising Life Lessons From Locing My Hair

More than a year ago, I made the decision to loc my hair. I’d been contemplating it for 3 – 4 years but never went through with it. I would glance at pictures of some of my favourite celebrities with locs (Choe, Halle and Ava Duvernay) and watch countless Youtube videos discussing the pros and cons of locing your hair. I would feel ready, book an appointment then cancel yet again. Something hadn’t clicked yet.

In that period, one of my friends started her loc journey. Despite my promise to start with her, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. Another cancelled appointment again. I was scared I would start the journey then change my mind less than a year into it. I didn’t want it to be an impulsive decision. I loved my afro, I had never relaxed it and I spent a substantial amount of money trying different hair products! [Way too much if you ask me.]

Then came October 2019. I was having a conversation with another friend who was considering locing her hair and in that moment, I felt ready. You know that gut feeling when you feel at peace with something? I felt that. Her mum started my locs for me with two strand twists (such a beautiful gift Alhamdulilah) and two weeks after I moved to Nigeria.

It’s been more than a year and I have to say, it has been such a joyful journey. I had a rough patch in the middle when I couldn’t find a female loctician in Abuja (the stress!) but a bit of DIY here and there got me through until I found one.

I fall in love with my locs more and more every day, I love the versatility that it gives me and it’s been a lot of fun seeing the different stages. One of my fears before I started locs was that I would be obsessed with having a super neat look. But I love the way my locs look in between before I get a retwist. My philosophy so far has been to let my hair be and let it breathe.

Locing my hair has been a huge reminder for me to enjoy life at every stage and have fun with each season of my life.

At the beginning of this post, I talked about waiting a long time (3 -4 years) before I made the decision. I think a huge part of why I feel so joyful and content with my locs is because it wasn’t an impulsive decision. I did it when it felt right to me.

The second life lesson is this:

Sometimes stay the course. If your gut is giving you alarm bells, don’t force the decision.

I pray that you benefited from this post and I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section.

Do you believe in gut instinct? How would you describe your relationship with your hair?


  1. I’ve been considering locing my afro for a year now and I’m filled with so over thinking. So I can relate to watching YouTube videos and all. I guess I’d just wait till my guts feeling says its the right time. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. As a somewhat loc veteran (12 years and counting!) I always love to hear of new loc’ers, so firstly – welcome! And secondly, I definitely relate to the fact that there is so much to learn in our hair journey – the patience in waiting for your hair to loc, then in waiting for it to reach a certain length (only to realise you did in fact enjoy the shorter hair!). It definitely is all about appreciating, learning from and savouring each moment… As is life 🙂

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  3. Omds its been something I’ve been thinking about for the last 2-3 years. I am travelling to Nigeria in July and I think I am going to start the journey over there. One of the big turn offs is the initial price for the starter locs. But I am hoping I can find someone in Nigeria to start it for me. I think I am finally ready!

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    1. That’s amazing! Starter locs are definitely expensive. But In sha Allah, I hope you find someone really good in Nigeria to start it for you.


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