Islamic Let's Talk Reflections

Muslim Women Don’t Exist As Your Sexual Object

I for one I’m tired of the discussion surrounding Muslim women from Muslim men. Particularly those on YouTube who have followers that swallow their rhetoric without question. Our religion has a beautiful tradition surrounding the importance of giving advice. Islam emphasises how crucial it is for us to support each other as we work towards the common goal of attaining Allah’s please. Just think back to Surah Asr which is often described as a summary of the Qur’an.

Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience. (Surah Asr)

With that being said, I watched a video yesterday that left me feeling embarrassed. I am tired of the way some Muslim men disguise emotional blackmail as advice. I am tired of the fact that Muslim women cannot exist outside a sexual vacuum. It seems that the only conversation certain sections of our community is capable of having about us, is about our existence as possible seductresses, – a source of fitnah. I find the conversation from these quarters about Hijab and modest dressing demeaning. We’ve moved from viewing the Hijab as an act of submission to seeing it purely in relation to attraction from the opposite sex. At the core of it, I observe Hijab as a commandment from Allah SWT just as I do the five daily prayers. The focus that Muslim male YouTubers have on the dressing of Muslim women is borderline obsessive and disturbing.

Our religion is one that emphasises the importance of working on our internal and external state. However, looking at the conversations we are currently having, it seems we are unable to move past the external to focus on the urgent need for internal development and consciousness. I am not arguing that external manifestations of faith and submission are not important, but it bothers me that Muslim women can only be viewed through a sexual lens.

Why else would a Brother cry on video about being unable to leave his house because of the way Muslim women dress? If you truly care about the welfare of your sisters in Islam, then you would not attribute your failing to lower your gaze to them.

Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves. (Surah Ar-Rad 13:11)

So to all the Muslim Male YouTubers out there, Muslim women don’t exist purely as your sexual object.

Our Hijab has nothing to do with you and everything to do with our Lord.

And with that I pray that Allah SWT grants us all ease in our means of worship. That all external manifestations of faith are pure and done with good intentions and that he accepts our acts of worship and makes us of those who are beloved to him, Ameen.

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  1. I fully agree with you and yet can’t help feel like it’s almost impossible to prevent when everything about women or male-female interactions is sexualised. This is the case in both in the Islamic and secular worlds and if we don’t provide a complete alternative vision behind the wisdoms of our faith, people will just keep going back to the “carnal” explanation.

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