Mental Health

You are not Unlovable : An Open Letter to My Husband by Molly Hillery


Titled ‘An Open Letter to My Husband,’ I came across an article that deeply moved me on Huffington post yesterday based on a recommendation from a friend. I had to share it on the blog and it’s definitely worth reading because it touches succinctly on the fear that some people who have endured trauma, or are battling  mental health illnesses often have about love. While the article is in relation to the author’s husband, the essence of the letter applies to all forms of relationship.

Below is an excerpt from the full article.

 You forgave me when I experienced countless relapses and slips, even when I promised I would get back on track. You stuck with me through terrifying medication changes; You held my hand and comforted me when my body felt like it was not my own. You watched me kill myself slowly and dealt with the repercussions of my anger when you brought it up. You had the tough conversations when I know you didn’t want to. You swallowed your pride and asked for help when you needed it, and it saved my life more than once.

I don’t know how you were able to think clearly during those times and how you survived it. But you did.

We did.

I want to remind you of the reason we read this aloud last June:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

You live up to this every day of our marriage. I want to thank you for being my life partner and for always being there for me, despite my scars and my fears about letting myself be loved. I know that some people would say that I am a survivor of trauma, but so are you. Together we can build a beautiful life together and move beyond the painful memories. We have only grown stronger from this- I know this because you always remind me when times are tough.

You can read the full article on Huffington post here.




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