Salaam Alaikum Everyone!
So my Friday Gratitude this week is: Out of the blue phone calls / messages.
One day I will hopefully write about why phone calls make me so uncomfortable but in the meantime it means that in my friendships and relationships with others, I tend not to call. Instead I rely on text messages and face to face meet ups, which are not always possible. Call me lucky or unlucky but I have lots of friends who prefer phone calls to text messages. What is strange is that despite how much I don’t like phone calls, I really appreciate it from some people in my life especially when it is unexpected.
This week started off with one of my friends in Nigeria texting me out of the blue to see how I was. I lived in Nigeria till I was about 12 so I have quite a few friends that I’m still in touch with and we talk frequently, every month or 2 months. Subhan’Allah every single time that I get text messages from friends in Nigeria I honestly feel really grateful. I am really bad at reaching out to people and it is something that I have been actively trying to work on, May Allah help me with it (Say Ameen for me please). So whenever they message me the fact that I crossed their mind and they took the time out of their day to reach out means a lot! Considering that the dynamic is different as well because we haven’t seen each other in about 9 years.
The next day or a few days after, I got a phone call from one of my friend’s mum who me to say Ramadan Mubarak and to see how I was because we hadn’t seen each other in a while. I got slightly emotional at this. Culturally I should be the one calling her and I felt so embarrassed! (deservedly so). I felt really unworthy of that phone call so I pray that Allah SWT continues to bless her because she’s so wonderful. At this point, the week was starting to feel like a reminder about the importance of maintaining ties of kinship and I was like something’s gotta be done about this. But Alhamdulilah there more surprises in store for me!
My Aunty in Nigeria messaged me, a sister that I met at CAMP last year (Shout out MAN Mosque) and shared a room with randomly called me, and then another sister from FOSIS that I hadn’t spoken to in a while also messaged me. Alhamdulilah I was really feeling the love this week.
I am using Ramadan Legacy App (which I recommend) and it has suggestions for duas and deeds etc. So one of the good deeds this week was to rekindle an old friendship. I started the day thinking there was no way I could do it on that particular day and then guess what happens? I spent over 2 hours chatting and catching up with a dear friend of mine.
On that note, the lesson for this week: Yes phone calls might be slightly uncomfortable for me but just as it has meant a lot to me this week, it could do the same for others in my life. So In sha Allah I want to be more consistent and reach out to people first. Lastly, I am really really loving WhatsApp voice notes right now. I am a die hard texter but I think the effect of recording podcasts has rubbed off on me so I will be using it in the mean time to connect with my loved ones. Baby steps uh?
Salaam Alaikum 🙂 and I pray that you all have a blessed Friday.
‘And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe.’ – Qur’an 14:7
I would love to hear about what something that you’re grateful for this week so please do share in the comment section.